For Karen, on our 30th anniversary (orig. written May 2010)
This is for the guys, but the women can listen in!
Weddings are a great place to meet young women. Everyone is thinking of love and marriage, and many want to meet guys. So go to weddings when you’re invited, even if you have to get dressed up.
NOW, here’s my advice.
There are two eligible women you’ll see there:
First: Do you see the young woman who is beautiful and knows it? Who carefully scans the crowd and figures out just which lucky male will enjoy her attention? Who forces herself to look fascinated by whatever he says? Who rolls her eyes up at the rest of guys, snickers about how other girls are dressed, makes cracks about older guests?
The second: Now, do you see the young woman who is equally nice-looking, but isn’t obsessed with how she looks? Is she the one who makes sure the elderly guests get a piece of cake, and has a smile and a friendly word for them? Who is helpful to the hostess? Who keeps an eye open for cute guys but talks to everyone, men and women of all ages? Who is happy to chat with you, but doesn’t play those shallow flirtation games?
Brother, take it from me, I know whereof I speak:
In 30 years, the first one will still be a “princess”, only three decades older and significantly less mesmerizing.
In 30 years, the second one will still be your queen, older, yes, but more fascinating and charming by the day.
Admire the first woman, sure. But do whatever you can, my friend, to marry the second one.
“Some advice for young men. About the Ladies,” by Gary S. Shogren, Professor of New Testament, Seminario ESEPA, San José, Costa Rica
Sounds like you made a good choice! 🙂
I did indeed, thanks Graeme!